It's Okay To Change Your Mind

and you will be met with new ways to grow through it

To preface this: I just spent the last hour “perfecting” my Substack URL and sender name here on Love Letters from Ari.

I change my mind often. It’s almost like the concrete changes I make are always trailing behind me—catching up to who I’ve already become.

I originally created this Substack solely for Intuitive Nutrition—my beloved holistic nutrition practice—but then something shifted. I wanted to share more personal thoughts, more of my voice. I wanted to be me. So I changed all the info on this account… except the sender email. That required coding and a new domain. So I spent about an hour obsessing on what to do.

And somehow, I couldn’t bring myself to write another post when the email still said “Intuitive Nutrition.”

Which sounds ridiculous… but to me, it felt paralyzing.

What I’m realizing is:
The resistance to growth often hides in distractions.
Like needing the sender email to be perfect before I could hit “publish.”

Why was that such a big hurdle?

It’s happened so many times. Years of Kajabi, coding, tech overwhelm… I’ve had so many things I wanted to share but never did—because the road was too frustrating.

But maybe the road was the lesson. Not the outcome.
The feelings that come up are part of the process. They show me where I freeze, where I collapse, where I start to doubt myself.

Lately, I’m learning to be less reactive. I’m seeing how my need for order—mental, visual, digital—is just a way to feel safe in my own chaos. And it’s helping me understand myself more deeply.

Here are some things I’ve noticed:

I’ve never just been Ariana.
I’ve always led with a business name, or how I wanted the world to take me in.
Ariana Wellness. Intuitive Nutrition. Intununion. The Soma Council. Somatika. (There are probably more.)

I don’t want to hide anymore—I want to embrace all of me. No mask. No guards.
The wisdom seeker. The teacher. The student. Silly baby Ari. All of me.

I’ve also noticed that I feel embarrassed when I change my mind.
I over-analyze what other people might think, instead of simply being with my ever-shifting self.

But clarity doesn’t come from trying to get it perfect the first time. It comes from trying at all.

I’ve learned that distractions often show up as resistance—especially when I’m growing.

One time, I was trying to figure out something on the backend of my website, and I was so aggravated I almost gave up. A friend told me to take a break and come back to it and that moving through it is the growth. And that stayed with me. I was frustrated because I was actively deconstructing an old version of myself.

This letter is for the version of you who’s contemplating a shift:
A career leap. A new direction. A personal evolution.

Sometimes the resistance is you.
The part of you that wants to stay in the comfort of your patterns.
The part that knows it wants to go for a walk or take a yoga class, but ends up scrolling instead.
The part that wants change—but doesn’t yet feel safe to move.

Whatever you're growing into—there will be discomfort.
And in that discomfort, you’ll learn.

For me? I’ve learned that cohesiveness keeps me feeling internally collected.
When my outer world reflects my inner truth, I feel calm. Balanced. Creative.
Otherwise, it’s like trying to cook in a messy kitchen—I have to do the dishes before I can even begin.

I bought a new domain to reflect this space and am working on the back end, but that can no longer inhibit my growth.

Deep breath.

-Ari

Photo below: My first vacation fully off of social media. The first time I’ve ever fully dedicated a trip to being present. It’s been about 3 weeks with no social media and I’m learning so much about myself with all of this me time:)

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